The Monument

“This heap is a witness, and this pillar is a witness, that I will not go past this heap to your side to harm you and that you will not go past this heap and pillar to my side to harm me.”
– Genesis 31:52, NIV

Jacob worked faithfully under his uncle Laban for many years, but when the relationship soured, God called Jacob to leave. With his wives, Leah and Rachel, Jacob made the courageous decision to return to his homeland. It wasn’t easy. He had to wait for the right moment to leave, and even then, Laban pursued him.

Yet in this tension-filled moment, God intervened. He warned Laban not to harm Jacob, and what could have escalated into conflict turned into peace. The two men built a monument as a witness to their agreement: a boundary of protection and peace, ensuring neither would harm the other.

"Boundaries aren't walls to shut people out but bridges to foster healthier relationships."

We all have relationships where things seem to go wrong, no matter how much effort we put into fixing them. Whether it’s a family member, friend, or colleague, you may find that peace feels elusive. But sometimes, the path to peace involves setting boundaries. Like the monument Jacob and Laban built, these boundaries are not signs of defeat but tools to ensure safety, respect, and restoration.

Healthy boundaries don’t prevent love—they protect it. If it’s God’s will, He will bring healing and restoration in His time.

"Healing starts when we trust God enough to protect our peace."

Prayer: God, please show me how to set healthy boundaries with [name]. I don’t know where to start, but I trust Your wisdom. Please restore our relationship in Your timing, and give me the grace to endure the journey. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Blessings, Pastor Stephan